Lopez is changing and evolving, she tells me, sharing that her new line of ready-to-drink cocktails is part of a larger shift in her lifestyle and personal goals. She says she’s shedding some of her rigidity in favor of a more cheerful and playful side – a version of herself that her family and close friends nicknamed “Lola” in the past, but that she has long kept hidden from the rest of the world.
“Lola existed when I was in my twenties,” Lopez says. “I was the girl dancing on the table…and then I got super focused, A-type, over-achieving workaholic. Over the past 10 to 15 years, however, she’s come to realize that softening up a little could do her soul some good. Today, at 53, JLo feels proud to incorporate more balance into her life in an effort to (proverbially)”dance again.”
“I realized my life was passing me by, I’m in my 50s now, my kids are growing up,” Lopez says. “I needed to find more balance and learn to have a little more fun and relax, and I also needed to stop proving myself and putting all that pressure on myself like we do as women around the middle of our lives – when we’re at the peak of our careers, raising kids and being superwomen.” What Lopez needed most, she realized, was to relax and have fun.
“I got to this different point in my life where I was like, ‘I need to laugh more’, ‘I need to dance more’, and those are the keys to life and happiness. -Jennifer Lopez
And yes, drinking an occasional cocktail is now part of it. Although Lopez has adamantly avoided alcohol in the past (largely for health reasons), she tells me she’s started enjoying a glass of rosé (or the occasional white Russian or fruity spritz) every once in a while in recent years. The decision wasn’t so much an “I started drinking” as a “my ideas about life started to change,” she says. “I got to this different point in my life where I was like, ‘I need to laugh more’, ‘I need to dance more’, and those are the keys to life and happiness.
Her Delola-Cocktails are a reflection of that carefree spirit, reminiscent of her long-hidden alter ego “Lola” (hence the name, a portmanteau of “de” and “Lola” to mean “of Lola” in Spanish).
Although Lopez is proud that the early versions of Delola — three fruity spritzes flavored with natural botanicals like elderflower, passion fruit and hibiscus — contain less alcohol and sugar than some of their counterparts, there’s no denying that their alcohol content nonetheless negates any potential health benefits. (Certainly, recent science has crushed previous notions that a small amount of alcohol is GOOD for you.) But to focus on that is to miss Lopez’s point with the launch, which is more about the potential to find a moment of joy while pouring the occasional drink or opening a bottle with a group of loved ones.
While Lopez once believed in an all-or-nothing approach to wellness, she now wholeheartedly embraces balance, not just when it comes to drinking, but also when it comes to working out, sleeping, and everything else she does to take care of her body. “I used to be like, ‘I have to train every day, and I have to do something else, and I have to sleep all this time,’ and that worked for me for a long time,” she says, “but I got to a point where I started thinking, ‘Why am I putting all these rules on myself?'”
For the next act in her life, Lopez says, if she “has anything else to offer the world,” it’s the importance of being balanced and consistent when it comes to wellness. “You don’t want to not train at all, and you don’t want to train every day; you mean, ‘Let’s see if I can train three or four days a week.’ And the same goes for his approach to sleep: “Sometimes you’ll go to bed late, and sometimes you’ll get up really early, and you might not get the hours you need, but that’s okay.”
As the driving force behind this new, laid-back approach to wellness, Lopez cites the natural changes that come with aging. “It’s about being in tune with yourself and learning to change with those changes, which I think is the hardest thing for people to accept,” she says. You need to feel comfortable getting to know yourself, she adds, in order to embrace every part of you. And as for Lopez in the future? It will sound a little less like “JLo” and a little more like “Lola”.